Love for Kate

This post is part of a Love Bomb Mission to send love to Kate, who is suffering from depression. Remind Kate that she is loved and join the mission: http://dropalovebomb.com/love-for-kate-mission

 Dearest Kate

What to say, what to say?  That it will one day get better, that all this will pass, that you will look back at this time and think about how easy things were back then?  All of those things in fact.

Whenever you are going through any event the feelings attached to it are very real and often times very raw!  What does this tell you?  That you are alive, sure it hurts but we get through these times, we wear them as our badge of honour and go on.

People come into our lives, some good and some just downright bad, but if you consider that everyone we meet on this journey through life is to teach us something, it is worth considering when things go bad, what can I learn from this, what can I do to make sure this doesn't happen again?

There is no one else on this planet exactly like you and when we look at how other people live their lives it is easy to think that they are living a perfect life and everything is rosy in their garden.  The truth is often quite different.  Don't believe all you read on Facebook or Twitter.  People don't always tweet, my boyfriend just dumped me, or I feel like shit today, they smile, type in they are having a great day, all is well with the world and hit send!

I don't know if you write or paint, but these things are good for the soul.  Making sure you have time for yourself every single day to just be, to relax, take a walk, get some fresh air and clear your head.  A couple of things that helped me enormously when things got very dark was to keep a gratitude journal.  Every night before I laid down to sleep I wrote down five things I was grateful for.  One might have been I remembered to eat that day, or a stranger smiled at me.  The other thing I did was to write down affirmations, I found these to be very powerful, these I did every morning for a couple of months.  Whenever I get to feeling dark again I go straight back to these activities and they help me keep a lid on it.

It will get easier, I promise.  Take each day as it comes, be kind to yourself, don't expect too much of yourself.  Make time to just be, read a chapter of a book, take a walk, read in the park.  Try to smile or talk to one new person every day.  I know you are busy already, but volunteering is amazing and can transform your life, it is definitely a win win situation.  Who knows you might even get to make some new friends.

I wish you well on your journey, you will be fine. Walk tall, be proud of who you are and what you have achieved, the Universe will take care of the rest.

Love Beverley xx

PS I love this poem by Mary Oliver, especially the last two lines!  I hope you like it too.

The Summer Day by Mary Oliver

Who made the world?
Who made the swan, and the black bear?
Who made the grasshopper?
This grasshopper, I mean--
the one who has flung herself out of the grass,
the one who is eating sugar out of my hand,
who is moving her jaws back and forth instead of up and down--
who is gazing around with her enormous and complicated eyes.
Now she lifts her pale forearms and thoroughly washes her face.
Now she snaps her wings open, and floats away.
I don't know exactly what a prayer is.
I do know how to pay attention, how to fall down
into the grass, how to kneel in the grass,
how to be idle and blessed, how to stroll through the fields,
which is what I have been doing all day.
Tell me, what else should I have done?
Doesn't everything die at last, and too soon?
Tell me, what is it you plan to do
With your one wild and precious life?